Overwhelmed? 5 simple steps towards re-balance.

Sometimes we all have ‘off’ days. Sometimes it lasts longer than that. Something just doesn’t feel quite right… our mind doesn’t want to stop thinking, and ironically it stops our thoughts from being clear. Energy levels drop and lethargy and procrastination win us over.

But we must keep going! It’s not as simple as retreating into our shell until we recover… There is work to do, maybe little people to look after, maybe older people to look after. But who looks after us?

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You will have heard the phrase ‘you cannot pour from an empty cup’, or similar. When your cup is empty, you are already depleted. You find you can’t do everything you expect to do. Perhaps you start feeling resentful and annoyed with others. And then feeling bad that you have these moods. And then trying to do more to make up for it…

Feeling guilty about this does nothing for you. Unfortunately, you come to realise that nobody can save you but yourself*. Carrying on ignoring your needs only leads to more anxiety and adrenal fatigue.

If you recognise yourself in these paragraphs, don’t panic, it’s never too late to do something. You can take back control, one step at a time.

  1. Breathe. Focusing on your breath links you to yourself, validating your existence. Call it a meditation, time out, re-connect with yourself. 10 minutes a day.
  2. Feed yourself. Something healthy each day. Be it an apple, or a banana, salad or a fresh vegetable juice. One thing minimum. (more if you can…)
  3. Drench yourself. Water! One large glass when you wake up. One with every meal. Minimum. And one small glass after every visit to the loo.

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    Titanium Aura Crystal
  4. Protect yourself. Yes we all give away our energy in daily life. But some people suck it away for you, with gossip and negativity. Change the subject. Consider crystals to help you if you find this difficult.
  5. Rest. Put yourself to bed, in bed, early once a week, like you would an overtired child. If that means you wake early, use the quiet time to rekindle a hobby. Avoid TV on this day.

Of course it’s easy for me to write this, now it’s up to you to add these into your ‘recovery’ toolbox. Want reminders? Sign up to my newsletter for more empowering ideas, and get my ten minute ‘re-connect’ daily meditation FREE for a limited time…

You can contact me about other ways I can personally work with you to help to reduce stress levels, and increase your ability to maintain equilibrium in your life, or visit my website http://www.happysoles.net

* Stronger feelings of being unable to cope may be a sign of depression. See your GP if you think this may be you. If you are pregnant or a new mum Butterflies Community is a free support group for pre-and post-natal mental health in a non-judgemental setting. Please message them for your nearest group.

Help baby (and yourself!) to relax with reflexology…

I am often asked if I can treat little feet… Mums who have been with me in pregnancy yoga are keen to carry on this nurtured feeling after the birth, for themselves as well as their little ones.

So, I have created a four week course for Mummies/ Daddies/ Nannies/ Grandparents to learn how to soothe and comfort their own babies and children through the power of touch, with the magic of reflexology thrown in…

“(Ralphie) sleeps better and longer. I am doing the reflexology 3 or 4 times a week. The course was really interesting and enjoyable” S.S., 2015.

Reflexology for BabiesOver the weeks you will learn gentle reflexology routines for babies, suitable from 4 weeks onwards.

Feel empowered with reflexes for digestion, reflux and colic; relaxation, comfort and sleep; teething, earache and irritability; allergies, colds and coughs.

In addition you will receive charts for a basic routine (I have been using this routine on my girl from 8 weeks), to carry you into older years (think exam stress!)  and hand reflexes to support a toddler who just wants to be up on their feet..

When doing your reflexology the main point is consistency.

Daily sessions are best for babies so that you have time together, and they happily accept a treatment as they know it makes them feel good. As they get older (and if you have more children) you may find a weekly sessions suits you both best.

Perhaps make this part of your babies bedtime or nap routine.

Keep your fingers working on their feet as long as they are happy, until you have finished the routine. Sure they pull their feet away, it’s natural as they learn to take control of their movements, but we don’t restrict this, we move with them if possible.

baby reflexBring sound into your reflexology routine.

Gentle humming will do… on a sleepy time session I sing the same song or just hum, so they recognise it as bedtime. On a daytime session I will put in nursery rhymes and change the pace of the session to make baby giggle or keep them entertained. Eye contact is good!

I teach this course maybe four times a year, for a maximum for six participants.

You receive colour coded charts, handouts, a free binder included on the course, plus 12 months support.

If you’re interested in this course please contact me on 07876 254306 or see the website http://www.happysoles.net/baby-reflexology/

 

Pregnant! Now what…?

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Pregnancy. A time for many changes physically, mentally and emotionally. Sometimes even spiritually, as you become awestruck about the absolute miracle of life, growing within you. Sometimes good feelings, sometimes not so good. How can I help to support you?

Aurelia's Birth Day The euphoric one… (number three!)

As a mother to three children, with three very different births under my belt, I have experienced many different scenarios during pregnancy and labour. From denial to fear, from diabetes to shoulder dystocia, and from shock to euphoria and total empowerment, I believe I have enough experience to listen without judgement, and offer solutions (should you need them) to any pregnancy issue you may have. And if I don’t know, I definitely know someone who does!

Pregnancy yoga… each week I host a class in Borehamwood, where you can come and relax, melt away tensions, release aches and pains and focus on letting go.

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Pregnant! Now what…?

Pregnancy. A time for many changes physically, mentally and emotionally. Sometimes even spiritually, as you become awestruck about the absolute miracle of life, growing within you. Sometimes good feelings, sometimes not so good. How can I help to support you?

Aurelia's Birth Day
The euphoric one… (number three!)

As a mother to three children, with three very different births under my belt, I have experienced many different scenarios during pregnancy and labour. From denial to fear, from diabetes to shoulder dystocia, and from shock to euphoria and total empowerment, I believe I have enough experience to listen without judgement, and offer solutions (should you need them) to any pregnancy issue you may have. And if I don’t know, I definitely know someone who does!

Pregnancy yoga… each week I host a class in Borehamwood, where you can come and relax, melt away tensions, release aches and pains and focus on letting go.

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Easy pelvic floor exercises
  1. Explore different breathing techniques which calm anxieties and nourish you and your growing baby.
  2. Make space for your changing body, exercise safely and meet other women going through the same issues.
  3. Meditate to bring a deep connection with your changing body and growing baby.
  4. Deep relaxation in the form of Yoga Nidra will refresh you and empower you.
  5. Specific issues can be targeted with yoga exercises, such as sciatica, PGP and fatigue.
  6. Pelvic floor exercises and thigh strengtheners for an active birth are also part of pregnancy yoga.
  7. Partners learn how to support you in labour and birth, with active participation when needed, and feel less helpless. (partner class every six weeks approx)

NEW at Happy Soles Spinning Babies techniques to help turn your baby if they are not in the best practicable place for pregnancy, labour and birth.

  1. Weekly (recommended), affordable, private sessions of hands-on aided postures designed to create space for baby to turn into it’s optimum foetal position.
  2. Release specific tight ligaments as the womb expands, to promote symmetry and healthy posture.
  3. Learn simple daily stretches that can improve your well-being in pregnancy.
  4. Allow baby to engage in the correct manner, chin to chest, so that contractions are most effective as the head remains in good contact with the cervix.
  5. Techniques promote regular contractions and shorter, less painful labour.
  6. Less risk of intervention and trauma for Mum and baby.

Emotional Freedom Techniques – also known as tapping. Individual sessions are tailored around what’s coming up for you right now.

  1. Remove anxiety about the impending birth of your baby/ babies.
  2. Allow freedom from attachment/ fear from a previous birth experience.
  3. Increase ability to sleep and rest.
  4. Release anger towards someone/ some situation so that you can enjoy a more peaceful pregnancy.
  5. Empower you to believe in your bodies ability to give birth and become a mother.
  6. Let go of a past negative situation which has been bothering you.

Reflexology – pressing different areas of the feet to bring about a deep relaxation and rest for yourself and your baby…

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Reflexology pre-labour
  1. Take time to nurture yourself.
  2. Ladies who have reflexology in pregnancy typically have shorter labours and experience less pain Find out more here.
  3. Learn some pressure points which can help reduce pain in labour.
  4. Indulge yourself with aromareflex to reduce fatigue and bring calm.
  5. Potentially reduce aches and pains, nausea, constipation and other pregnancy related issues.
  6. Invite the body to deeply relax on or after your due date to reduce stress and with accupressure points to potentially encourage the labour to begin*

(*this cannot be guaranteed, as both baby and you must be ready to give birth.)

The signal to birth usually comes from a hormone released by baby, signalling their lungs are now mature enough to breathe outside the womb. However the reflexology can benefit you incredibly by deep relaxation removing impatience, and bringing acceptance that baby will come when they are ready… and they usually do! Birth dates can vary from due date by up to three weeks either side.)

Reiki – a deeply relaxing healing energy, where hands are placed on or just off the body to allow gentle healing energy to be channelled.

  1. Take time out of your busy week to completely relax and enjoy healing energy.
  2. Reduce aches and pains.
  3. Prepare yourself mentally for the birth journey.
  4. Bring balance and awareness to the body during pregnancy.
  5. Totally non invasive treatment. Can be completely hands off if necessary.

Indian head massage – massage to the upper back, neck, shoulders, arms, head and face.

  1. Reduce tension in the upper body.
  2. Release tight muscles.
  3. If using oils, nourishing the hair and scalp.
  4. Relax the face and increase circulation to the skin
  5. Bring about a feeling of well-being

Rebozo – traditional mexican scarves used to wrap, hold and move the body.

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  1. Nurture you and your baby bump
  2. Support you in pregnancy and early labour.
  3. Release tension and free the pelvis and lower back.
  4. Reduce aches and pains
  5. Empower your partner to support you in labour and birth.

 

Coming soon… Moxibustion…. as and when I can persuade the tutor…🙂

Call me on 07876 254306 to find out how I can help you, or see my website http://www.happysoles.net for more information.

 

Aromareflex – Scent-sational reflexology!

I wanted to tell you about my latest skill addition… yes I know us therapists update our skills all the time, and with so much to choose from you are a little lost?? Well, this therapy is going to change all that!

Aromareflex trainedAromaReflex… a combination of all the benefits of reflexology with the power of essential oils. Packing an hour and 15 minutes of nurturing therapy full of balancing, harmonising, relaxing, rejuvenating, immune system boosting plant extracts and massage techniques, you re-surface as if from a cocoon of calm. And it’s adaptable for pregnancy too! Leaving the oils on your skin for at least 8 hours maximises the absorption of the oils and their therapeutic benefits.

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Creating a blend for you from a choice of twelve essential oils. Treat yourself to a matching candle!

AromaReflex uses a combination of twelve essential oils, specially mixed into your reflexology wax or cream before the session begins. There is of course a full consultation to begin, and we then choose oils which correspond to your needs.

I will prepare a tester stick with your oils on so you can be sure you are happy with the aroma, before i mix.

Now you can lie back and enjoy an extended foot massage and reflexology, with the oils fragrancing the air as you relax. What could be more luxurious…

WAIT! It IS possible to make your treatment even better!!! The addition of Hot Stones into your reflexology session Just Got More Interesting! As the aroma warms from the heat of the stones you can drift into your own tranquil space. Imagine yourself in a place you really want to be (I know, you’re imagining yourself in my treatment room right now, but after that… on holiday perhaps… waves lapping on the beach… sun shining on your skin…). As I work through the session you can relax so fully and completely.

AromaReflex is already a firm favourite of mine. I admit to mixing my oils based on my needs at the time, and shamelessly massaging my own feet almost daily since the training!

After treatment you can enjoy a glass of water or a nice herbal tea to keep yourself hydrated, and rest. As an extra treat to yourself, why not have an AromaReflex scented soya wax candle made up for yourself to match your selection!

Call me on 07876 254306 to discuss your own luxurious and nurturing treatment… it just doesn’t get any better than this!

Are you a no-helpian?

I was watching our favourite family movie the other day with the children. Otis the cow, in the film ‘Barnyard’, leaving behind his carefree days to take responsibility and stand up for others. Well, we all have to grow up some time. Yes, these days come to us all. During one of his ‘partays’ he gets pizza delivered. He reaches out of the barn door, with fake human arms, to collect the pizzas, really carrying far more than he can handle, and drops one of the arms!! The horrified pizza boy offers assistance, yet Otis (trying to protect his real identity as a cow) claims he doesn’t need any help. It’s against his ‘religion’. He declares himself a ‘no-helpian’. If you want to know what happens, you’ll have to watch the film, but here’s the point of my post…

Many of us actually fall into this category, not always by not accepting help when it’s offered, but by not asking for help when we feel overwhelmed. We have hectic jobs, lots of responsibility, maybe young children or elderly or infirm relatives or spouses to take care of. We maybe feel friends are too busy with their own lives, or family would judge or give unsolicited advice. Either way, we can often muddle on regardless, trying to look like we cope well all by ourselves. We look forward to the half term… then we look forward to the children being back at school. We can’t wait to finish work and go home, then we wonder how long till bedtime. At bedtime we can’t switch off for thinking about work. Future events don’t bring the relief we thought they would. A perpetual disappointing race. The result of weeks, months and possibly years of this can wreck your career, create havoc in the family home, and upset your daily balance. You have no peace.

Fortunately, there is a solution. Something you can look forward to where you can be present, allow yourself to re-charge, re-balance, relax…

Here, at Happy Soles, I have a variety of things you can choose from depending on your physical state and current needs. If you feel your brain is overloaded try our Dynamic Yoga classes on Monday evenings, getting your week off to a good start. Clear your mind, focus on yourself and take a refreshing deep relaxation at the end with yoga nidra. A mixed class, suitable for beginners too. Private yoga tuition is also available if you cannot make a class, or don’t feel ready for one just yet.

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Reflexology

If you’re physically exhausted try reflexology. I will use my hands to press different areas of your feet, hands or face (which correspond to parts of your actual body) to deeply relax and re-energise you. There is no undressing, only socks and shoes are removed, and you can recline and rest whilst the effects are experienced. This therapy can be used in conjunction with reiki (healing energy), crystals (with healing properties), and hot stones (so very luxurious) to enhance the experience. Specific needs can also be addressed, such as lymphatic drainage. Each reflexology treatment is tailored to you and how you feel at that time in your life.

EFT Tapping pointsIf you feel overwhelmed and anxious, stuck in the same patterns and frustrated, try EFT. Emotional Freedom Techniques can be used in different ways to release you from what is holding you back. I use my fingers to tap on parts of your head, face and upper body during this therapy, on meridian points to release blocks and allow the real you to be revealed. It isn’t invasive, and you can tap on yourself if you are uncomfortable with this. Indeed, if we work on this via Skype, you will be instructed in tapping on yourself. We decide on what issues are bothering you right now and, through tapping, resolve the inner conflict you feel with yourself and empower you to do what you need to move forward. It’s also brilliant as a self help tool in emergency situations of anxiety and panic, but best to deal with deeper issues with a qualified practitioner such as myself.

Positive affirmations, repeated regularly, can help lift your mood and change your mindset.
Positive affirmations, repeated regularly, can help lift your mood and change your mindset.

It is best to have a ‘treatment plan’ where you can commit to at least six weeks of your chosen therapy (or mixture of them). That way you can benefit most from it and hopefully bring about positive changes towards nurturing and looking after yourself. When your desired state of release, relaxation and rejuvenation has been achieved, you may want to take a short break between treatments, or you may decide to carry on weekly, knowing that the support you need at last is here, whenever you need it. You are now a calmer, happier and more centred person who feels more like a human being rather than just a human doing.

You deserve and need to take time out to nurture yourself. The sustenance you need to balance your life is just a phone call away. Call Caroline on 07876 254306 or email info@happysoles.net to discuss all my therapies and fulfil your individual needs.